OK Experts,
I know you have all the info for me and I thank you for your help.
I want to update on my terms.
TIA
Simply enough, open Windows Update and select Change settings in the
left column.
In the Change settings window, under Important updates change it to
"Check for updates but let me choose whether to download and install
them." This will simply notify you of available updates, but you
choose when to download and install them.
If that doesn't give you the total control you want, go a step
further and select "Never check for updates (not recommended)." With
this setting you check for updates when it's convenient for you.
hth